author of this article is Wladyslaw Ochojski
article brings the issue of proactive and its impact on your life. If you want to learn how you can change their strategies of thought and thus make more energy, happiness and growth to your life, I invite you to read.
Ever wondered what affect the quality of your life, your actions and the effectiveness of This is what attitude you come into your life?
As a psychologist, coach and person dealing with NLP, often I look at people in different activities, contexts and times of their lives and has always interested me how to think, why so and what the outcome in the form of behavior.
often come to the conclusion that people like to make your life force. Annoyed with trivial reasons, pushing the responsibility on others, arguing (often because of misunderstandings arising from the inability to communicate), or indulge in evil being due to these circumstances. Under all this lies probably some foundation. Usually it is so that people get rid of responsibility for his conduct, claiming that it is not responsible for the government, parents, spouse, girlfriend, lady in the box office, rain, sun, mud, snow (even), etc.
Stephen Covey writes, between the stimulus and response, you can really choose how you want to keep. You have total freedom of choice. The freedom to choose to include such capabilities as self-awareness, imagination, conscience, awareness principles guiding our behavior, and a sense of how far our thoughts and actions are in harmony with them. You also have free will, which he says Covey - the ability to act on the basis of self-consciousness, no matter what.
If you want to be a successful man, is accept the fact that you are responsible for their behavior. This way you can get rid of such behavior as blame circumstances, other people, external conditions. Your behavior should then be the result of deliberate choice based on values. You choose how you want to keep going being resistant to phenomena and events .. So I must point out that hurts you or inspires you in other unpleasant emotions is not something that happens to you, but your reaction to that. So you can change the way you react to various situations - even by changing habitual thought strategy. Take a look at how you can change your inner monologue.
"I can not" - "choose"
"I" - "Will"
"He drives me crazy" - "I control my emotions,"
"I can not take this anymore" - "I can no longer take responsibility for this situation" (And so I choose ...)
"It makes me feel so helpless," - "I can make you start to feel the impact of that situation,"
"I have no influence on it" - "I'll check, how can I change the"
"I am a" - "I can change their behavior"
"I always have to be annoyed by you" - "That I control my emotions."
What you have strategies thinking? Did you notice at home some reactive behavior or thoughts? Best to write all on paper and then think about how to change them. Remember that your replacements must indicate that it is you're responsible and you have the proper resources to achieve their goals and to lead such a life, what you really want. Let your inner dialogues proactive become self-fulfilling prophecy - you'll be more and more convinced of this, that you have an impact on your life.
Good luck! ---
Wladyslaw Ochojski
Multiply your effectiveness!
www.wladyslawochojski.pl
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